10 Ways to Become a Strong Mother
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How to Become a Strong Mother, Everyone knows how to become a mother, but some don't know how to become a strong mother. Strong mothers aren’t born that way; they are made that way through hard work and dedication to their family. The choices you make as a parent matter, and they will shape your child’s life forever. Whether it’s the food you feed them or the people you associate with, the decisions you make today will affect your child’s health and happiness later in life. Here are ten ways to become the mother you want to be, regardless of your age or parenting experience level. If you follow these rules, your child will be well on their way to living an amazing life!
1) Dream about your child
Every parent has dreams for their child and hopes for their future. But even if you have your eye on Harvard, that doesn’t mean your child does. What good is hoping for something if you don’t know what it is? The more time you spend with your children—talking, learning about them and their aspirations—the stronger mother you will be able to be. Even though your child may not share your dreams exactly, having some clarity about what he or she does want will make it easier for you to support him or her in pursuit of those goals. Have an open conversation with your children about what they are dreaming of and ask them how they might find out if that’s possible.
2) Talk with your child
Talking with your child is essential to becoming a strong mother. One of the most important things you can do for your child is let them know that you love them, but there are many other ways you can show your children how much they mean to you. Without practice, it’s hard to have these conversations, and taking time out of your day just for your family will create lasting relationships. In order to become a strong mother, talk with your children and make sure they know how much they mean to you.
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3) Communicate through touch
Being a strong mother means being able to communicate with your child through touch, rather than words. What I mean by that is paying attention and listening to your child’s needs and wishes, no matter how simple or complex they may be. This is something that you should always do but as children grow older, it becomes more and more important for mothers (and fathers) to connect in such an intimate way with their kids. When you think about it, when was your last hug? Hugging your son or daughter not only allows them feel loved but lets them know you are there for them—no matter what. It’s important that parents also take care of themselves physically so they can be mentally and emotionally strong enough to love their children unconditionally.
4) Know your child's strengths and weaknesses
As your child grows, he or she will develop in different ways and at different times. Understanding your child's strengths, as well as his or her weaknesses, can help you guide them towards an activity that fits with their personality and skill set. For example, if your son has an affinity for numbers, you might encourage him to pursue things like chess; if he struggles with memorization, you might encourage him to learn about history in other ways. Most importantly: Help them understand their strengths themselves. That way they're more likely to stick with activities that challenge them.
5) Don’t underestimate the power of your smile
If you want your kids to be happy, just make sure you’re happy first. The better you feel about yourself, and your life as a whole, children are more likely to mirror that positivity. In other words, what kind of mother do you want your kids to see? A depressed one? Or one who is positive and takes joy in every day? Your attitude will influence their well-being—so don’t underestimate its power.
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6) Think of your child as an individual
When you think of your child as an individual, it makes it easier for you to understand and care for their needs. Thinking of your child as someone with particular likes and dislikes—and remembering that everyone is different—can help you remember not to make judgements on them. You might also be able to communicate more effectively with them because they feel like their wants and needs are being heard. When you think of your children individually, try taking time each day or week just to talk about them—find out what makes them tick, what they like and dislike, who their friends are etc... Having these conversations early on helps build trust between parent and child.
7) Set boundaries
You might be used to giving your children everything they ask for, but setting limits early on helps them grow into well-adjusted adults. If you don’t set boundaries early on, you run a serious risk of raising entitled children who expect others to give them whatever they want. In order to help your child become an independent adult, allow them less freedom and offer more guidance. You should still make sure that they understand that you’re there as a resource whenever they need it; otherwise, your child may not know how to deal with stressful situations without throwing tantrums or developing other self-destructive habits.
8) Take parenting classes
Being a parent can be scary. You're responsible for another human being and will likely face situations that are completely outside your experience. The best way to become a strong mother is through knowledge and preparation—take classes, read books, talk with other parents about their experiences. Study up on parenting so you can be as prepared as possible for what comes next.
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9) Seek professional help if needed
It’s one thing to ask for advice from other mothers, but if you’re serious about becoming a strong mother, it might be time to seek professional help. You may also find that professional help is beneficial as you raise your child because new challenges arise with each age and stage. For example, when children are babies, they require very little care or active parenting; however, by middle school and high school—when teens start spending more time with friends than family—you need to get involved in your child’s life in new ways. Having somebody like a counselor or therapist guide you through those changes could help turn you into an even stronger mother than you were before.
10) Let go
If you’re feeling overwhelmed as a parent, you may feel like you have no control over your situation. You worry about where your kids are at all times, whether they’re eating enough, if they’re getting enough sleep and whether or not they’re experiencing any psychological issues that can affect them later in life. Letting go will help curb these worries. Know that not everything can be controlled and don’t waste too much time trying to keep tabs on every aspect of your children's lives.
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